I was talking with a client yesterday and something he/she said irked me.
“I don’t have a choice” I rarely openly disagree with a client as it doesn’t benefit them but in this case I had too.
Everyday we have to make choices. Everyday we have to choose how to manage ourselves, what’s best for us, and how to create the best possible outcome.
There are very few things in life when we don’t have a choice. Here is the rub and this is what I told my client.
“Oh you have a choice the problem is you either don’t like the outcome, or don’t want to put in the work post choice. Just because the choice you have to make may not benefit you right now, or is uncomfortable or for that matter generally sucks don’t think for a second you don’t have a choice.”
We all have such an aversion to being uncomfortable, to have inner dialogue that results in inner conflict that we accept the unacceptable.
I have call it "comfortable chaos". The next thing after not making a choice or going along with that you know isn’t the right one is resentment, for yourself and for those that you decide put you in that position.
Nobody put you there, you put yourself there, make a choice to change, to not accept what is unacceptable. Make a choice to walk away from the BS or the disrespect.
It is the only way you will maintain self respect. I am not saying it will be easy, in-fact it may be harder but you will have without a doubt better choices to make moving forward.
I can tell you from personal experience that when you go against your gut it will eat you up and spit you out. When something or someone has the audacity to create an environment you know is wrong then it is up to you to flip the switch and make the choice to move on, move forward and free yourself of the BS.
Shane Griffin CNP, ROHP